Worried about a veteran in your life
Signs that someone you love is struggling, how to start the conversation, and where to send them for help.
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Signs to look for
- Drinking more, or using drugs more.
- Pulling away from people who used to matter.
- Sleeping badly, or sleeping all the time.
- Sudden anger, or going numb.
- Talking about being a burden, or about "ending it".
Any one of these on its own might be nothing. Several together over a few weeks is worth paying attention to.
Starting the conversation
You don't have to find the perfect words. "I've noticed things feel heavier for you lately. I want you to know I'm here." That's enough.
Avoid trying to fix it. Just listen. Stay calm. Don't promise to keep secrets if the situation is life-threatening — be honest that some things you have to share.
If they say they're thinking about ending their life
Stay with them. Remove anything obviously dangerous. Call Samaritans on 116 123 or 999 if there's immediate risk.
For ongoing support: Combat Stress 0800 138 1619 (24/7) or refer to Op COURAGE.
Look after yourself too
Supporting someone in crisis is exhausting. SSAFA, Help for Heroes, and our own advisors offer support for family members — you don't have to carry it alone.
Still need help?
Speak to a trained advisor. Free, confidential, and judgement-free — for anyone who has served, is serving, or is family of someone who has.